Forgive those who hurt you.... Ex-Solution: Part 2

Hello beautiful people!! I hope you are having fun in the sun, hanging out with your family and friends and eating a lot. I know I am!!

So 2 month ago I shared with you about my ex problems... Well what ever I hoped or expected to happen didn't even happen, not even a little bit.

We were emailing back and forth (I refuse to talk to him or text him on the phone. I'm not ready for that) and I noticed he would take 3 or 5 days to reply to my message. Ummmm thats a no no boo. I'd forgive him  because he would always have some pitiful excuse why he didn't message me back.

I knew (in the back of my mind) I wanted to be with him, maybe in the future. But I knew that wouldn't happen. So I talked to a therapist I knew at my church for some advice. He is an older man and he has been through a lot so I knew he would help me with this problem

I am so glad I decided to talk to him because he made things seem so clear. Because I am such a loving, nurturing, and understanding person, it was easy for me to fall for my ex again. But he made it clear to me that if my ex really wanted to mend things up with me, he would not take a WEEK to message me back.

He also told me to make a deadline for my ex as well. So I did.  I emailed my ex and told him that we needed to meet up , because this email thing was not working out. Also if you really wanted to mend thing up   he will find time for me and fix it. I sent that to him thinking he would respond.... but I am still waiting.

Conclusion:

I realized that I needed him to act like a total ass, so I could see he is not worth my energy, love, passion and time. But he is worth my forgiveness, mercy and prayers. We are all humans and we make mistakes, so who am I to cast the 1st stone?

At the end of the day I am at peace with this situation, but the dating world seems big and scary. I hope its ready for me and my ambitions!!

Forgive those who hurt you! Ex Factor... Part 1

So recently I decided with my strong independent self, to suck up my pride and speak to my ex! Which was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life.

So your wondering "how did ya'll break up?"

 Well we were together for almost 2 years. I fell in love with him the first time I saw him literally. Even when he was dating other people, I still had a feeling in my heart that one day we would be together and we did. It was rocky at first because a lot of people in my high school didn't want us together. We never fought in public or argued. We handled all of our problem like adults. We made sure we never went to bed angry with each other. I believed that God should be in the center of our relationship at all times. So when it came to sex he already knew he wasn't having it!!! And he was proud and pleased of my decision and never asked to have it.

After high school graduation we had a wonderful summer and then college started. Which was weird for us both. We were away from each other for an entire summer once so we knew, well I knew that it would be okay. But he was holding a lot from me and I never knew he was going through a lot at home which lead to his decision to break up with me with a text message.... yes he sure did.

I went through hell trying to understand why did someone that I loved and someone that I assumed that loved me would do something to me like that. After that everything just went down hill. I had no friends to talk to because they were in college. Also my best friend decided to stop talking to me as well. College was hard and stressful .

So last week Sunday I saw him at a graduation and I confronted him. I know I saw that punk wipe his eyes but he denied it smh. What ever I wanted to say to him I said it... But because I didn't want to bash him for all the pain he put me through, I did assure him that I still pray for him and his family daily and that I forgive him. If God forgives me daily for all the sins I do, I believe as a sinner I should do the same. Life is to short to stay angry and hold malice towards other people!!

It takes a lot of strength and courage to go through what I went through. And I know if I didn't have a relationship with God I would have never had the strength to approach my ex.

The hardest part now is that he has a girl friend but he wants to be friends with me. I can't handle that right now in my life. I am still trying to get over him but how do you get over your first love???

It's hard so it will take time and prayer and time.

QUESTION:

How do you you handle being friends with your ex? Or is it okay to be friends with your ex?

If you've ever had this situation happen to you let me know! I would love to know what you did to get through your rough time.

Take care and stay fabulous!!

Think Like A.......?!!

So over the weekend I watched Think Like A Man! Yes yes yes go and see it, with your partner, friends, or by yourself! It's so FUNNY!! I couldn't stop laughing, screaming, clapping and stomping lol 

(Don't they look yummy??? lol)

So while watching it I was thinking, do women actually by Steve Harvey's book and follow his rule/opinions on how to find a man and how to deal with them?? I mean is his information legit?

Why can't we just follow our "womanly or manly" instincts to help us deal with our relationship problems??

How do you deal with your relationship problems?
Do you run to your best friend or mom/dad for advice? Or do you figure out the problem by yourself?

Ooohhh weeee I can't wait for your answers!! 

Alright now, I hope you all have a blessed and safe week!!

Stay Fabulous

xoxo